Author Topic: The origin of the phrase, "baby-daddy" (Read 3890 times)

saxon75 · « **Reply #25 on:** May 12, 2006, 10:14:38 AM »

Because we were talking about couples with children. I don't see much moral or practical difference in child-rearing ability between an exclusive, non-married couple and a married couple. In the broader scope there are certainly practical differences between an exclusive, non-married couple and a married couple.

In a larger sense, though, I'm starting to question my purpose in making that statement at all. I'm not sure what sort of discussion I was trying to engender, or what the goals of such a discussion would be. I'm starting to think that I might not have been trying to discuss at all, but that I was just being argumentative and challenging because I was feeling defensive. That's not something I should do. I apologize.

Porter · « **Reply #26 on:** May 12, 2006, 10:17:23 AM »

I know I make that same mistake from time to time.

Accepted.

rivka · « **Reply #27 on:** May 12, 2006, 10:19:05 AM »

To clarify: I was not claiming there is a difference in child-rearing ability between a married couple v. non-married. And I certainly have reason to know that being married is no guarantee that the parents will remain a single parenting unit.

However, IMO, if a couple chooses to have a child, they owe it to the child to do everything possible to give that child stability and acceptance in society. To me, being married is an important component of that.

saxon75 · « **Reply #28 on:** May 12, 2006, 10:43:45 AM »

I was using the word "ability" in a more broad sense than solely things like skills and talents. I meant it to include anything that each couple is able to provide for their respective children.

I think it's likely that our difference of opinion comes from differences in some fundamental aspects of our worldviews. I think it was a little combative and tactless of me to bring it up, especially in the way that I did. I apologize for that and I'll quit now. Though if anyone else wants to continue the thread, please don't take my absence as a request not to.

rivka · « **Reply #29 on:** May 12, 2006, 11:23:11 AM »

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I think it's likely that our difference of opinion comes from differences in some fundamental aspects of our worldviews.

Almost certainly.

pooka · « **Reply #30 on:** May 15, 2006, 05:35:14 AM »

I think the main feeling I have for a family where the parents don't see the benefit of getting married is "concern". But a lot of situations cause me concern.